The Comeback - How to Pick Your Ass Up and Thrive After Divorce

After a high-conflict divorce, how and when do you decide “enough is enough” and start your comeback? What if you’re dealing with a high conflict personality, such as borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, in your ex-partner? Well, it’s not easy and it’s definitely a journey, but with the right professional support it is possible to come back even stronger.

In this AZ Virtual Coffee Talk, Paige Zandri is joined by empowerment coach, Nikki Bruno, to discuss her own comeback and the tools she used and now uses with her clients to stage their own epic comeback.

Nikki notes that the first step to getting through a high-conflict divorce is to recognize you can’t do it alone and identify the professionals you’ll need to guide you through the journey. She emphasizes how important it is that you pin-point an attorney who:

1. Demonstrates their understanding of how to manage a high-conflict spouse;

2. Has extensive experience in high-conflict divorce and can articulate examples of success; and

3. Can expertly navigate the litigation process, the courtroom and has experience with the judges and opposing counsel in your county.

Once the divorce proceedings conclude, it is important to recognize that is only the end of one stage and the beginning of another. Especially if there are children involved, a trained professional can be extremely helpful in working with you to find the tools that will keep the conflict down, help you practice self-restraint and regulate your emotions.

And then…it’s time to start working on hitting your turning-point to making your comeback…this is where an empowerment coach like Nikki, can really make the difference.

Watch and listen as Paige and Nikki share their own experiences and how working with the right professionals from start to finish can make a long-lasting difference.

The Artese Zandri team has extensive experience in litigating high-conflict divorces. If you believe you may be faced with a high-conflict divorce are in the middle of one and questioning if you have the right counsel for your needs, do not hesitate to contact us for a free consultation, and we can review the circumstances of your situation.

Nikki's recommendations for further exploration...

• Read - Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing - When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. Author Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist and divorce mediator guides readers through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced way.

• Use - To help in communication with a high-conflict personality in your ex, take a look at using apps like Our Family Wizard or Fayre. Apps like these help track communication and accountability between parents.