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Custody and Relocation: A High Bar for the Relocating Parent

Custody and Relocation: A High Bar for the Relocating Parent

In times of major personal change, such as divorce, the desire to relocate for a fresh start can be alluring. However, when you share custody of a child with your ex, your ability to relocate becomes severely limited. Often, custody agreements address relocation, limiting relocation to a specific geographical region, one that is local enough for the other parent to continue having meaningful parenting time with the child. If you want to relocate beyond that region, you might be able to do so if you prove that the move will better serve your child’s best interests than having to stay.

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Postnuptial Agreements

Postnuptial Agreements

Postnuptial agreements operate the same exact way as prenuptial agreements. Loosely, they define a married couple’s rights to assets, income, allocation of debt and rights to inherit from one another. The key difference is that the couple enters into a postnuptial agreement after getting married. 

Why would someone want a postnuptial agreement? There are a few common reasons:

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Enhancing Communication for Divorcing Couples: Four Key Strategies for a Smooth Transition  

Enhancing Communication for Divorcing Couples: Four Key Strategies for a Smooth Transition  

Divorce is an emotional and challenging process for everyone involved- whether that be the spouses themselves, their children, or extended family. Effective communication plays a crucial role in minimizing conflict and facilitating a smoother transition, particularly in the midst of the holiday season. With the holidays upon us, now more than ever is the time to improve your communication style.

Here are some tips on improving communication with your former spouse.

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Beating Courtroom Anxiety

Beating Courtroom Anxiety

Divorce is undoubtedly a difficult experience. For many, the prospect of having to appear in court only adds to the anxiety. Whether you’ve had an unpleasant experience in court before or have had no exposure and simply don’t know what to expect, courtroom anxiety is completely normal.

Here are four tips on how to deal with anxiety before you head into court.

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How To Effectively Defend Against False Allegations in A Custody Dispute 
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How To Effectively Defend Against False Allegations in A Custody Dispute 

Divorce and child custody battles are incredibly contentious. This environment is a breeding ground for bad behavior and can too often involve one parent making false allegations of serious abuse against the other. Allegations can range, but they usually involve one or some combination of the following: alcohol or other substance abuse; physical, verbal and emotional abuse or worse, sexual abuse. When false allegations are credibly refuted, the outcome can backfire and become a fait accompli for the custody rights of the accusatory spouse. 

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